3 Reasons to Ditch Standard Jewish Online Dating

Dating Online

Do you waste time browsing Jewish online dating services? Here are 3 great reasons why you should ditch Jewish dating websites and try something new.

I’m 29 years old, a successful entrepreneur, athletically fit, attractive and looking for a partner who will enjoy traveling the world, eating at fancy restaurants and watching the sunset over the ocean.

OK, I’m really 34, my business is only mildly successful, and I’ve put on a few pounds from all the stress. But you don’t know that, since you’ve only met me online. And herein lies the problem with Jewish online dating- you just never know what you’re gonna get (hmm…Kinda reminds me of Forrest Gump!). It’s easy for people to embellish their online profiles, to upload outdated pictures and to say what they think potential suitors will want to hear. Frustrations with Jewish dating online are rampant- Jewish singles are tired of searching and searching, only to find out that their ‘prince charming’ is actually not charming at all. You probably don’t need any more reasons to ditch standard Jewish dating websites, but I’ll give you three more anyway- as well as some helpful suggestions that can make the Jewish dating process a pleasure rather than a pain in the you-know-where.

Jewish Dating Websites are Big Time Wasters- While we all know some people who sit at home all night with nothing to do, most of us like to think that we have a bit more of a social life (or, at the very least, a professional life). Who has time to browse thousands of profiles in search of that needle in a haystack? With multiple pages to read for each interesting profile, Jewish online dating can take hours, if not weeks or years- and wouldn’t you rather be dating than searching for dates? Fortunately, a professional Jewish matchmaker has the time needed to pursue your perfect partner. The right Jewish matchmaker will weed out all of the thorns, so that all you’re left with is enjoyable, enriching dates.

Writing That Profile is Hard Work! Nobody likes to complement themselves or explain why they’d make a suitable partner. When browsing Jewish dating websites, you’re likely to come across the guy who thinks he’s a comedian, the one who thinks he’s God’s gift to women, and possibly even the one who thinks he’s God. But is that the information that you really want to know? Wouldn’t you rather know who the person is from a reputable source, someone who has met him in person, or, at the very least, spoken to him at length? Jewish matchmakers are trained to analyze personalities and create a keen understanding of who their clients are, so that they can provide honest, accurate assessments of each potential match. Now doesn’t that sound more honest than any online profile you’ve ever read?

Safety and Security- You may not want to admit it to out loud, but it’s something that you’ve probably thought about countless times before- how do you know that your Internet suitor isn’t a stalker or pervert? You don’t, but you’re guessing that he (or she) is probably somewhat decent, since you’ve been emailing him for a few weeks and he seems normal. In all honesty though, you don’t know if your potential suitor is an axe murder any more than you know whether I’m REALLY 29. Enlisting the help of a Jewish matchmaker is an easy way to know with certainty that your date will not be dangerous (and hopefully he won’t be horrible either). Those who turn to a Jewish matchmaker for help are those who are serious about finding a partner and those who are really looking for quality mates (believe me, I know!) So stop leaving your safety to chance, and do something proactive to ensure as safe and successful Jewish dating experience.

For the record, it should be noted that not all people who create online profiles are liars or criminals. There are definitely hundreds (if not thousands) of honest Jewish singles represented online. Some of them may even by my clients as well. But do you really want to take that chance, when you can avoid the hassles by going directly to a reputable source? I’ll leave that for you to decide….

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Jewish Singles: Excuses-Excuses!

Some advice from Sara the Matchmaker:

Some common interests are great, but don’t maintain your personalities be matchy-matchy. To be happy with your other half it is not a requirement that he/she loves all of the same things you do. Even a jazz-loving, vegan can find happiness with a hard rock ballad-crazy, romance novel-reading steak lover. Its all about values my friends. As long as you have shared values and your personalities click, go for it. At least get to know more about him/her.

Don’t lie!

Saying that you own the whole building when you actually are the janitor, is a nu nu nu. . You’ll never find the perfect person for you if you’re pretending to be someone else. Saying that you don’t smoke and going out smelling like an old ashtray is another nu nu nu.

Just as you should be honest, expect the same from your date. If they are evasive or seem to be holding back on questions you have, don’t be afraid to push a little for more satisfying answers.”

No good telephone?

I have sent you his/her photo and profile, you get in touch, you whip out a few intriguing emails, and when you’re full of beans with anticipation, you schedule that first magical phone call. And it’s, um, odd. Suddenly, you don’t have as much to talk about. Where have all the sparks gone? One telephone conversation and you’ve hit the skids? Never fear, and go ahead and make that date anyway. ‘’Most men don’t usually like to chit-chat as much as women do… so don’t read too much into a bad phone call.” I have hundreds of stories of clients who got married after I insisted they met even though the telephone was not that good!

Stay tuned, I am coming back with more

Sara Malamud

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Jewish Singles ” No No ”

For the Jewish singles dads and mums
What about the kids knowing ? What’s to know !
They think we’re dead ? Nah,
Especially, if the date is Jewish. They’ll see continuity, belonging,commonality.

Ladies, seize the day! When you feel that you may have good chemistry with a guy, for goodness sakes, ASK HIM OUT! My last girlfriend asked me out. I was totally flattered and excited. Keep in mind, only two percent of people in the US are Jewish, only 1% is the opposite sex, and to find that person in your generation–wow the odds are tough. So, see a sexy Jewish dude–don’t be shy–ask em’ out.

Be honest! come on, say it if you want to go home and say it if you are having a good time!
One thing that I have learned is that it does both people a lot more good if they are out-right honest with each other–within reason. If you’re not having a good time on a date, say so. Be nice about it of course, but say something. You never know, that could be the icebreaker needed to get you to actually talk to each other.

Having a shower and being well groomed is not ”pass`e”…

I know it may sound petty, but I find it quite insulting when my date – (first time or otherwise) – does not show me the courtesy of arriving to our meeting clean and well groomed. Could you imagine, a guy I met (only once, of course) showed up to our evening dinner date holding his briefcase in one hand, and a doggie-bag with leftover lunch goodies in the other?

Yes!! be yourself but :

Do….. be yourself on the date. Act as crazy as you normally are.
Remember that she wants to have fun, just like you do. Plan a fun date.

Don’t …… try to be more yeshivishe than you are. Leave the costume (hat, jacket, gemara) at home.

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Jewish Singles: Don’t ask No-Win Questions

Perhaps one of the most tempting reason to try to control your other half is to get reassurance/

Does she/he like me?

Does this relationship have a future?

Does he/she think I am attractive?

WE all feel vulnerable in a new relationship because we don’t know where we stand. Asking them one of these questions, however, is an unfair step. Worse still, asking such questions puts an unnecessary strain on a relation that has just started. Its like urging a child to become a doctor when she enters kindergarten.

So, relax and surrender. The less urgent you feel about getting their reassurance, the most attractive you will be.